Do you take the upper hand in love? Your choice: Chocolates You are dependent on your lovers, you don't take the love of the upper hand, and want everything to be decided by the other side. This loss of self-love makes you very insecure, often worried that the other will leave you, but the more worried, the less self-confidence, and slowly make your love go to the brink. Adjust your mind. Don't be led by other people. Find your true self. Maybe love will turn around.